by Katie Moran
I wish I knew then what I know now. My daughter’s superpower is dyslexia, or a specific learning disability in reading. We’ve been working so hard to bring awareness this month in honor of #DyslexiaAwarenessMonth! She also has a diagnosis of dysgraphia, ADHD, and executive functioning disorder.
I’m writing this for those parents at the beginning, the middle, and the end of the fight. If you’ve never been a parent in this fight, know that it’s intimidating and heartbreaking. We need support and empathy. And I’m writing this to thank all the teachers that try to speak up but don’t have the resources to help in all the ways they want to; I know you are doing the best you can. I’m writing this for the special education aides who listen and remind our kids that even though they are different, they are just as good as every other neurotypical kid.
Here are some tips I’ve found useful for a successful and productive Individualized Education Program (IEP) meeting:
- Prepare: Request all test scores prior to the meeting. This includes any standardized tests such as Student Learning Objectives (SLOs), Measures of Academic Progress for Reading (MAP-R), or Developmental Reading Assessment (DRA). It could also be helpful to loop in the testing coordinator at your school when doing this. I find myself being caught off guard when this information is presented in the meeting (whether it be a shockingly low or high score) when school staff has had time to prepare. It’s also good to have all your child’s grades printed from the Schoolmax Family Portal the day you request the IEP meeting. I like to print them the week before the IEP meeting. That will allow you to identify inconsistencies if grades were input right before an IEP meeting, although you hope that would never be the case. Ask who will be in attendance at the meeting. I always find this to be very important in my mental preparation.
- Listen: This was a hard one for me to learn. We all feel so passionate about our children and usually by the time we’ve requested our IEP/504 meeting, our kid has already been struggling in school for some time. As parents, we have our own preconceived notions about our children, sometimes contrary to the information being presented in the meeting. However, it’s really important to take notes, fully listen, and ask follow up questions during the teacher’s presentation. Working as a team is in the best interest of your child. You each have a unique perspective that together, has a lot to offer.
- Evidence: Keep your child’s school papers, and not just the bad ones. I used to go to IEP meetings and it felt like teachers brought all of my child’s very best work and I brought all of my child’s worst work. We were both proving a point. I have learned to bring work that I’m proud of and I bring a few pieces that highlight what I’d like to discuss about the IEP.
- When you get overwhelmed: Ask for a minute. It is okay to step out of that meeting and take a breath. Go outside. Call a friend and ask for advice if something doesn’t sound right. Google it. Know your rights. It is okay to reschedule meeting if you have lost control. It is okay to cry.
- Never sign your 504 or IEP at the meeting. Take it with you and read it over, read it over many times. Make sure you put everything in writing. What I mean when I say that is to send an email summary of the meeting within 24 hours of when the meeting took place. If it’s not documented in that time frame in writing (and email counts), it never happened.
I would be remiss if I didn’t recommend hiring an advocate if you can afford it. The conversation is so much different when you have an advocate present. I understand that is a luxury not everyone can afford so here are some additional websites that can help you know your rights as you prepare for your meetings. An alternative is to bring a friend who can take detailed notes during the meeting. Get a binder and track everything!
Some other great resources are linked below as well.
For more information on what dyslexia, dysgraphia, ADHD, and executive functioning disorder are please see the links below.
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